For many who suspect they may live with AD/HD, failure is a consistent part of life. It shows up in one's ability to organize, regulate emotions, focus, and/or simply sit still. This can mean that you might have a history of difficulty with finishing academic (or other) tasks to you level of satisfaction, that you notice others are constantly frustrated with you, that you're not progressing in your career, that you struggle maintaining intimate relationships, and that you struggle managing the mountains of emotions that come with these experiences.
You are not alone.
AD/HD occurs in as many as 5% of American adults (that's a lot of people). Additionally, it's been found in every country it's been investigated, including South American, Great Britain, Scandinavia, Europe, Japan, China, Turkey, and the middle East. In other words, it seems a little more universal than not, which also means that it's not some made up, fictitious thing. It's real and it's hard.
Good News and Bad News
Take a second and think about natural selection with me (weird, I know, but just go with it). Basically, over a period of time (lots and lots of time to be 'exact'), unnecessary genetics that don't aid animals (including humans, in this case) in survival are weeded out by mating (and death). Let's apply this logic to matters that cause humans pain or distress. Stay with me! If AD/HD still exists, then it means that it's not unnecessary. Get it?! If it was unnecessary, it would have highly likely been 'killed off,' for lack of better words.
What if we saw AD/HD as serving a function that's unconventional as opposed to unnecessary? If that's the case, then it makes sense that there's a higher rate of AD/HD among CEOs, writers, artists, salesperson, trauma nurses, and ER physicians.
What good science has shown us so far is that AD/HD is a condition of the brain (i.e. there are distinct brain differences between folks with AD/HD and folks without). What this means is that it's unlikely that any form of treatment will offer a cure. And that's okay! What if we approach a treatment from the perspective that you don't need to be cured, but instead you just need to learn how to use your strengths in a way that enables you to tap into your unique brand of genius?
How do I know if I have AD/HD?!
Symptoms of AD/HD are quite broad, but can generally be grouped into a couple of categories: Inattentive, Disorganized, Hyperactive, or Impulsive. Here are some questions to ask yourself if you think you may have AD/HD.
- Do you have a hard time keeping track of your duties and the tools that help you to accomplish them?
- Do you find yourself frequently down, accompanied by the feeling that you've failed at a task?
- Do you find that your thoughts are like butterflies - beautiful to behold, but hard-as-hell to capture?
- Do you find that your feelings are (or can be) all over the place and kind of hard to manage?
- Do you find that it's hard to get back on track once you've been distracted?
- Is it hard to find motivation to begin tasks unless it's something you really enjoy or find stimulating?
- Does the mere thought of trying to create order from some of the rampant chaos in your life feel so overwhelming that you do nothing instead?
- Do you find that you have so many things going on at once that it's hard (damn near impossible) to keep track of them all, but you get bored when attempting to focus very deeply on one task?
Nine Myths of AD/HD
- excuse for bad behavior
- a disorder of hyperactive boys
- minor problem
- American invention
- product of motivation
- disorder that's caused by bad parenting or teaching
- disorder that everyone can outgrow
- disorder for which medication alone is the best treatment
How can The Counseling Hub help?
There are surprisingly few providers who offer a full range of services for adults diagnosed (or suspecting they may live) with AD/HD. However, here at The Counseling Hub, you have competitively priced access to the whole kit-and-caboodle and a counselor/therapist who specializes in working with individuals who fit the above criteria!
Therapy can include some, if not all, of the following:
- assessment and diagnosis
- education (including support for medication management and nutrition)
- emotional and social support
- school/work strategies
- relationship strategies
- social skill strategies
- cognitive strategies
- self-regulation strategies
One additional thing to note is that the list above is not exhaustive. If you have something that you want to work on that you don't see in the list above, simply reach out to see if it's something we can help you with (although I'm betting that it is).
I'm interested. What now?
Easy. Contact The Counseling Hub by clicking the link below or calling us directly. Good luck and we hope to hear from you soon!