My name is Tara Vossenkemper. I'm the founder and clinical director of The Counseling Hub, and a practicing counselor in the state of Missouri.
Tell me if any of this sounds like you...
- struggling in a relationship or one the brink of calling it quits (but want to give it one more shot)
- wanting "more" in life
- questioning the meaning or purpose of life
- feeling indifferent towards your spouse
- just found out your partner had an affair
- feeling on the precipice of change, but not sure how to get to your goal
- wanting to grow and develop spiritually
- frequently feeling anxious or depressed
- exhausted from thoughts that won't turn off
- feeling 'out of love' with your spouse or partner
- questioning whether to leave a relationship
- questioning if you should have doubts in your relationship
- feeling empty, like there's a big hole in your stomach and you can't find a way to fill it
- asking "what's the point?" about life, your work, and/or your relationship
These are common reasons people come into counseling. These are the reasons people seek help.
More often than not, folks still feel some sort of shame in reaching out. One of the reasons I founded The Counseling Hub was to diminish that sense of shame, to normalize the fact that all people struggle in some way during their lives, and to empower people to grow and heal in their own unique way.
The Counseling Hub is all about connecting,
healing, and growing.
I'm simply here to be a light throughout those darkened paths on your journey. Not to lead you, not to guide you, but to help you see that you're the one who is steering, that you're the one with the power to change and heal, that you're the one who is living this life. No shame and no regret, just fully embracing what it is to be alive.
It's a beautiful thing.
If I had to sum up who I was in a few sentences, I would say this...
- I'm a self-care 'expert.' :)
Ha! As if such a thing really exists. After many years of living life without a concept of self-care (and failing miserably in many ways), I've finally figured out that self-care is one of the kindest, most important things we can do for ourselves. It's how I manage my own health, relationships, and sanity while, at the same time, giving my all to others. And yes, it's still (and always will be) an ongoing process. And no, if you didn't get the message above, I'm not really an 'expert.' This is something I put a lot of effort into, though, because I deem it one of the most important things in life.
- I love nature and animals.
Big time. There is no amount of words that can adequately describe the brilliance and simplicity of nature. Much like life, it's not always fair or easy, but it's beyond amazing how creatures and plants (big and small) find ways to survive and thrive in this world. I think this goes without say, but I don't know all there is to know about nature or animals and never will. However, I will probably use some metaphors and analogies of animals and nature in counseling. It's become part of who I am. Plus, given the amount of brilliance in nature, it's hard not to incorporate it into therapeutic work.
- Learning is one of my favorite things.
In any setting - reading (self-help books a guilty pleasure), documentaries, school, webinars, trainings, podcasts - you name it, I'm on it. There's something in my biology that pushes me to learn and understand things at the deepest level I'm capable of. I love learning about people, in particular, and I keep coming back to that old adage, "The more you know, the more you realize you don't know." Yes, yes, YES.
- I'm happily married, but not without struggle.
WOW - I'd love to write a book on this some day. Part of my love of couples work stems from my own experience in my relationship. Not that I use my own relationship as the 'way' other people should do there own (no way!!). What I will say is that my own has launched me into studying relationships and couples therapy and, because of that, I've come to a much richer understanding of what makes relationships work. People won't say this freely, but successful, committed partnerships take work. I wouldn't trade in that work for a thing and I won't lie and say that marriage is the finish line. False. Marriage is the starting point and there is no finish line. It's a perpetual journey. The glory is worth the struggle.
- I'm not an expert on you.
Yes, I am very good at seeing patterns in people's lives, at recognizing unrealistic beliefs, at peeling metaphorical bandaids off of unhealed wounds, and at giving gentle, direct feedback to clients. However, when push comes to shove, I am merely the person who is asking the right questions, in the right environment, with lots of compassion and curiosity, who genuinely, truly cares, and who wants you to succeed. With all of that said (and maybe the most important 'secret' of therapy), I am not the one with the answers. You are. And my goal is to get you to a place where you begin to believe that as much as I do.
If you're ready to move forward with me, Tara, at The Counseling Hub, then reach out today. I am more than happy to help you decide if this is right for you.