Individual Counseling and Therapy
The quote above is what it's like when we try to deal with anxiety on our own (and are failing). We try to ignore it, shut it down, say it's not important, distract ourselves by staying busy, busy, busy, and even turn to things that aren't healthy for us and don't leave us feeling fulfilled or good.
Good News and Bad News
There's good news and there's bad news. The good news is that anxiety is something we can manage. It's something that, with the right understanding and practices, we can allow it to exist and not let it overwhelm us. It's really important to emphasize this.
Anxiety doesn't have to be something debilitating or something that stops us from functioning in our daily lives. There are millions of North Americans who thrive with anxiety and, in many ways, anxiety is self-protective and helps people to succeed in ways that those without anxiety can't quite understand. My point is that we shouldn't throw the baby out with the bath water. Anxiety can be something we can manage and has served some people very well.
The bad news, however, is that anxiety isn't something we can just get rid of completely.
We've (as a species) had a longstanding and helpful relationship with anxiety - it has served us well in many ways and it's really improbable that it's going to be gone forever from your life. The Counseling Hub doesn't advocate for lying to potential (or current) clients, so we are forthright in saying that we can absolutely help you alleviate some of the anxiety, manage it emotionally, and live with it in such a way that you have a rich life and don't feel constantly overwhelmed by it. However, we cannot, nor will not, promise to help you get rid of anxiety completely.
How do I know if I have anxiety?
Well, it might look a little like this:
- racing thoughts; brain constantly going
- can't fall asleep because your brain is too busy thinking about the next day, horrible 'what if...' situations, or the things you messed up on today
- a pit in your stomach - some say void, some say fear, some say dread, and you may call it something else
- fluttering heart (at times, not constantly)
- shallow breathing (at times, not constantly)
- feeling like you're always waiting for 'the other shoe to drop'
- questioning if you've done enough/are enough incessantly
- feeling apprehensive consistently, but with no clear understanding of why
- seeking reassurance from others (partner, friends, family) - "Are you sure?"
There are many, many more things that could be listed, but for now, this will suffice.
How can counseling help?
That's a great question. Here's how. Counseling can not only teach you how to interact with your anxiety, but it can teach you effective ways of managing your anxiety. This will vary from meditation, mindfulness, and journaling to cognitive strategies and exposure therapy.
There are various ways to manage and deal with anxiety and counseling will help you implement these strategies for more effective functioning in your own life.
Okay, great. Now what?
Perfect - thanks for asking! If you're ready to start learning strategies and alleviating this tension in your own life, reach out directly through our contact form or call today to set up a session with one of our counselors!