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Embrace The Boredom of Life

I am just going to come out and say it. Life can be boring, mundane, and monotonous.  There. It's out in the open. Can't take it back.

it seems that so many people strive for this "perfect" life, but don't realize that striving for something that doesn't exist without embracing this basic sort of fact (that's clearly a personal bias) that life can be boring at times leads to feeling dissatisfied and unhappy. It's not that I don't want people to strive for better or more or more content or happier, but I want people to be realistic about their strivings. If your goal is to feel elated on a daily basis, then that's an issue. If your goal is to jump out of bed every morning and scream at the top of your lungs, "I love life!!!," we can make that happen, but I don't know how real that might be for you. Real as in authentic and true. I don't know if that action would match up with the way you felt on the inside. The way you feel on the inside is the purpose of this blog. Just to clarify. 

My point is this – we strive for lightness without embracing it's counterpart. It's so cliché to even say, but we can't have light without dark, we don't have good without bad, and we don't have right without wrong. We are, dare I say, always creating contexts for ourselves. What I mean by that is that if we're given the numbers five through 10, we see five as a low and 10 as high. However, when we learn or realize that the numbers go from 1 to 100, we see five and 10 as low and anything above 75 high. The context, or the additional information, makes a huge difference. We will consistently create different groups, so to speak, based on the information that we have. 

Which means what, you're asking. It means that no matter what's going on in your life, you will feel like there's better than what you have and then strive for it. The downside of that, though, is feeling like you're missing out on something and/or striving for more, better, or the best ever. It's both, not one or the other. And the sooner we realize and embrace this fact, the more we can rest into the present situation, assuming that it's not a toxic one.