Alternative Relationships

Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling | Columbia, Mo

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Couples Therapy or Marriage Counseling… Sorta

You probably know by now that our team at The Counseling Hub loves couples therapy and marriage counseling. We basically live and breathe all things couple, and we stand by our approach (lookin’ at you, Gottman Method). With that said, the reality is slightly different. We actually love anything to do with romantic relationships. This means any type of relationship - whether that’s with two people, three people, four people, paramours, secondaries, or metamours (and more). And while we often use the phrases couples therapy and marriage counseling, we realize this phrase is limiting and that our work is really bigger than that.

What’s an alternative relationship?

Long story short is that alternative relationships are any relationship outside the monogamy ‘norm.’ They take a wide variety of forms, including but not limited to consensual nonmonagomy, polyamory, swinging, and being in an open relationship. Basically, if you’re in any style of relationship that doesn’t fit a two-partner mold, then you might be in an alternative relationship. If you don’t go by that language, that’s cool, too! We’re happy to use whatever language feels right for you (and your partner/s).

I don’t want to be criticized for my relationship/s. Can I trust you?

Short version, yes. You can absolutely trust us. We also understand that just because we say you can trust us doesn’t mean that you immediately deem us trustworthy - all of which is expected and understood. Trust is earned and we respect that.

We’re also well aware of the fact that there are multiple different types and styles of relationship. The beauty in what we do is that we don’t take it upon ourselves to decide what’s healthy or right for any person or people (barring abuse). Even more beautiful is that the concepts of the Gottman Method are universal, meaning that we can take what we know and apply it to whatever relationship you’re in (lookin’ at you, communication and conflict). Basically, you won’t be criticized for your relationship and we can help you (ideally - we can’t guarantee anything because the work isn’t really up to us) since the concepts we use are applicable to many different kinds of relationships.

How can you help us?

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Through many of the same mechanisms - we meet you and your partner/s all together to get a feel for the problems and what successful therapy would be, then with everybody individually to get a feel for who each person is (additional context), and then we come together to talk about the health of your relationship. It’s as “simple” as that (simple doesn’t equal easy, of course). We can be the most helpful through getting an objective, in-depth view of your relationship and distilling it back (with your input throughout the whole process) - this gives people a much richer, in depth view of their relationships, and allows them to make any decisions they’re going to make with a much wider view of what is and what has been. It also tends to give people hope. That doesn’t happen every time, by any means, but it’s frequent.

Okay, I think I’m interested. How do I connect with you?

Great question. You can click below, hop on over to our contact page, or you can email us. We’re pretty quick on the turn around (less than a day) and will get back to you as soon as possible. We’re also always happy to answer any questions, so don’t be shy and ask away!