Tara Vossenkemper | MA, LPC
Individual Counseling, Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling | Columbia, Mo
My name is Tara Vossenkemper. I'm the founder and clinical director of The Counseling Hub, and a practicing counselor in the state of Missouri.
Tell me if any of this sounds like you...
struggling in a relationship or one the brink of calling it quits (but want to give it one more shot)
fighting nonstop with your partner or having terrible fights when they happen
questioning the meaning or purpose of life
feeling indifferent towards your spouse and want to discern whether to try or not
just found out your partner had an affair
feeling on the precipice of change, but not sure how to get to your goal
feeling empty, like there's a big hole in your stomach and you can't find a way to fill it
asking "what's the point?" about life, your work, and/or your relationship
feeling really disconnected from your partner and don't know how to reconnect
feeling 'out of love' with your spouse or partner
questioning if you should have doubts in your relationship
The above are common reasons people come into counseling. These are the reasons people seek help. More often than not, folks still feel some sort of shame in reaching out. One of the reasons I founded The Counseling Hub was to diminish that sense of shame, to normalize the fact that all people struggle in some way during their lives, and to empower people to grow and heal in their own unique way.
The Counseling Hub is all about connecting, healing, and growing.
I'm simply here to be a light throughout those darkened paths on your journey. Not to lead you, not to guide you, but to help you see that you're the one who is steering, that you're the one with the power to change and heal, that you're the one who is living this life. No shame and no regret, just fully embracing what it is to be alive.
It's a beautiful thing.
Five Fun Facts About Tara
I'm a self-care 'expert.' :)
Ha! As if such a thing really exists. After many years of living life without a concept of self-care (and failing miserably in many ways), I've finally figured out that self-care is one of the kindest, most important things we can do for ourselves. It's how I manage my own health, relationships, and sanity while, at the same time, giving my all to others. And yes, it's still (and always will be) an ongoing process. And no, if you didn't get the message above, I'm not really an 'expert.' This is something I put a lot of effort into, though, because I deem it one of the most important things in life.
I love nature and animals.
Big time. There is no amount of words that can adequately describe the brilliance and simplicity of nature. Much like life, it's not always fair or easy, but it's beyond amazing how creatures and plants (big and small) find ways to survive and thrive in this world. I think this goes without say, but I don't know all there is to know about nature or animals and never will. However, I will probably use some metaphors and analogies of animals and nature in counseling. It's become part of who I am. Plus, given the amount of brilliance in nature, it's hard not to incorporate it into therapeutic work.
Learning is nonstop for me.
In any setting - reading (self-help books a guilty pleasure), documentaries, school, webinars, trainings, podcasts - you name it, I'm on it. There's something in my biology that pushes me to learn and understand things at the deepest level I'm capable of. I love learning about people, in particular, and I keep coming back to that old adage, "The more you know, the more you realize you don't know." Yes, yes, YES.
The Office (US version) is my FAVORITE SHOW EVER.
This would be embarrassing to say if I wasn't so in love with the show, but I've seen the full series well over 30 times. Yes, I'm serious. I watch it, finish it, then start it again. If I'm not quoting it, reminiscing about "that one scene where," or crying over Michael's departure (or Pam and Jim's wedding or the series finale or some other random scene), then I must be ill. The absurdity of the show coupled with Michael's completely oblivious nature makes the show totally silly and HILARIOUS. #TheOfficeForever
I'm not an expert on you.
Yes, I am very good at seeing patterns in people's lives, at recognizing unrealistic beliefs, at peeling metaphorical bandaids off of unhealed wounds, and at giving gentle, direct feedback to clients. However, when push comes to shove, I am merely the person who is asking the right questions, in the right environment, with lots of compassion and curiosity, who genuinely, truly cares, and who wants you to succeed. With all of that said (and maybe the most important 'secret' of therapy), I am not the one with the answers. You are. And my goal is to get you to a place where you begin to believe that as much as I do.
Tara's Education and Training
Tara Vossenkemper is currently a doctoral candidate (ABD), obtaining her Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Supervision from the University of Missouri - Saint Louis (ranked second in the nation for all counselor education programs), and earned her Master of Arts in Counseling from Missouri Baptist University. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Missouri and has presented at regional and national conferences on the topics of ethnic and racial discrimination, sexual minority distress, and spirituality, and is beginning to get her feet wet in the business side of private practices by hosting training and consulting.
Tara has a diverse set of clinical experiences, working with both adolescents and adults on issues ranging from emotional, behavioral, eating disorders, anxiety, spirituality, and existential crises. She is most passionate about and specializes in couples counseling. Tara enjoys working with couples looking to decrease or enhance conflict, relearn how to communication with each other in effective ways (and where each partner feels understood), or are celebrating an engagement and want to do premarital work.
Tara has completed Level 3 training in the highly effective Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1, Level 2, and Level 3) and is currently obtaining her certification. She has also been formally trained as in the Prepare-Enrich Premarital Couples Counseling approach and the PREP Approach for couples counseling. Tara is also a regular contributor to the American Counseling Association (ACA) blog. You an read her work here.