Your Life Is Now, Not in Five Years
I’m sure I’ve read something similar to this somewhere–most things I reflect on come from things I read or hear (probably not alone in that). SO, it was this notion that the best predictors for where you’re going to be tomorrow and then the next day and then the next week and so on is not where you are today, but what you’re doing.
Anxiety–Part III (Psychological)
Well, well, well... we meet again, friends. As promised, I’m going to tackle anxiety from the next angle. And for today’s post, I’m going to focus on the psychological component of anxiety. More specifically, I’m talking about our cognitions. I’m not going to get into biology or genetics this time (it’s coming, don’t worry), but I am going to get into how our cognitions, in particular, can impact our anxiety.
Anxiety–Part II (Existential)
Alrighty, friends. This is a continuation of the first part in a series of posts on anxiety. Each post covers one distinct aspect of anxiety (existential, biological and genetic, evolutionary, psychological, and behavioral) and all aspects can comprise your (or anybody’s) experience with anxiety.
Anxiety–Part I (Existential)
This may be my favorite series of posts EVER. First and foremost, I love anxiety. To experience it can be hell (and that’s putting it mildly), but I love to talk about it with clients because a) it normalizes what they’re going through, and b) it de-stigmatizes anxiety. Both of which are wins.
What Function Does it Serve?
Y’all are going to think I’m crazy, but this is way too relevant to not share. Okay–so most of us want to figure out what our problems are so that we can change them right away, so that we can fix them and be done with it. I mean, people come into therapy and counseling specifically for that reason. They feel some level of distress (something isn't quite working in their life) and they’re not quite sure what or how to “fix it.” Here’s where I come in...
Why Anxiety Is Rewarding
This is going to sound like the most confusing thing ever, but just hear me out. Anxiety is rewarding. There, I said it. It’s rewarding. Please don’t misunderstand, though. Anxiety is rewarding does not equal it’s healthy to get lost in ‘what if’ thoughts that consume your life. It also does not equal don’t give your brain time off because it likes to be worked 24/7/365.
Speak Your Truth
Tell me if this sounds familiar. I was having a conversation the other day with a friend, and she was complaining about her husband–that he doesn’t help her around the house when she’s actively doing things. She’ll, literally, be going from room to room, picking up laundry, cups, and toys along the way, while her husband is sitting on his phone or watching tv. When that’s done, she'll start a load of dishes and laundry. By this time, her husband has asked what time dinner will be.
Five Reasons to Put Yourself First
Tell me if this sounds familiar. Annabelle is a working woman. She’s got a full-time job that she loves, a partner that she loves, and great friends. She balances her time doing extra work around the office or bringing work home (trying to move up in her corporation), being with her partner through outings, dinner, or relaxing (usually with work in tow), and attending get-togethers with friends, whether planned or spontaneous. With all intents and purposes, Annabelle should feel ecstatic. In her own words, “I have everything I wanted to have at this point in my life...”