How to Deal with Feeling Jealous of Others
You know what you want when you’re jealous. At least, you know part of what you want. You might (read: probably) need to think deeper about the jealousy, but you at least have a direction that you know you want to move in. That shit is sacred, folks. Would you rather be floating endlessly through life with little to no sense of “ooh, there, I want to go there,” or would you rather have your eye on the thing you want, even though you know you’re not there yet?
Stonewalling–Horsemen 3/4
And it’s on to the next one. Stonewalling, my friends. This is the third horseman of the four. This one is pretty interesting, though, in that there’s some physiology that’s at play.
Three Keys to a Successful Relationship
There are three basic things you can do to make sure that your relationship is in a good place. Granted, I can’t make you (or your partner or partners) do any of these things, but I can let you know what these basic things are in the hopes that you’ll start to implement them.
Anxiety–Part I (Existential)
This may be my favorite series of posts EVER. First and foremost, I love anxiety. To experience it can be hell (and that’s putting it mildly), but I love to talk about it with clients because a) it normalizes what they’re going through, and b) it de-stigmatizes anxiety. Both of which are wins.
What Function Does it Serve?
Y’all are going to think I’m crazy, but this is way too relevant to not share. Okay–so most of us want to figure out what our problems are so that we can change them right away, so that we can fix them and be done with it. I mean, people come into therapy and counseling specifically for that reason. They feel some level of distress (something isn't quite working in their life) and they’re not quite sure what or how to “fix it.” Here’s where I come in...
Don’t Confuse Strength with Stoicism
This might be one of the areas that I feel most strongly about. This misguided, societal belief that being strong equates to being stoic. That showing emotions is a sign of weakness, rather than an immense sign of strength. That to cry is to not be strong enough to hold it together. That nobody is walking around in pain, with anxiety, or dealing with depression, grief, and sorrow.